2019 Goals

I have delayed writing this post because I’m honestly not quite sure what to write.

Each year people love the new year because they set goals and make all these plans that are supposed to be achieved by the end of the year. Typically, they don’t. Most people fall off track with their new year resolutions in February or March (some even before January ends).

I think the reason I’m so hesitant to make resolutions is because part of me knows I won’t stick to them. I will have the best intentions, but inevitably, I won’t stick to them. However, I realize this is a negative way to think and I would like to change that. So instead, I think I’ll use this typical goal-setting time to make realistic goals that I’m pretty positive I can achieve.

I was watching a Dave Ramsey video about goals and reading about how to actually set and achieve goals, and one thing that was common between everything I researched is that writing them down is a big part of it. Typically, I do write them down, otherwise I forget them. Goals also need to be as specific as possible, but also realistic. So saying I want to lose weight in 2019 is not a very good goal. But saying, I want to lose 20 lbs by June which will be achieved by working out 5x a week, no fast food, and a keto diet (or something like that), is specific and more likely to be achieved, according to experts.

What Dave says about goals is, they must be specific, measurable, include a time frame, in writing, and personal to you.

Since I briefly covered the others, personal to you basically means that you need to be the one that wants to do it. So saying I want to lose weight because my husband wants me to, is not going to make you want to lose weight. But changing it to saying that you want to lose weight because you want to change, that’ll keep you motivated and more likely to achieve your goal.

The other aspect Dave talks about is the seven categories that should have a goal, which are career, family, financial, physical, spiritual, social, and intellectual. These are all the basic areas of your life that take up your time and energy, so your goals should reflect that.

With these in mind, I did come up with a few goals for myself that I’ll share here.

CAREER

I split this category into three because I have my law firm job, my store on Poshmark, and this blog! While I don’t consider my Posh store and this blog as part of my career, this really is the best category to put them in.

Posh: I’d like to sell everything I have listed by summer. I would to accomplish this basically because I’m tired of having the clutter in my daughter’s closet (which basically acts as a storage room). I really enjoy selling things I don’t use anymore online, but it can be somewhat cumbersome at times, so I’d like to be able to shut down my store by selling everything I have listed.

Blog: I’d like to be more consistent on here with my posting, so my goal is to post 2x a week or 10x a month.

Law: I’d like my own case (which I kinda already achieved because I just got assigned one, but I won’t count that) and I’d like to take my first deposition. I’m not going to put anything too crazy like litigate my first trial because I know that is not realistic at all!

FINANCIAL

This category is currently our main focus and will be our main focus for most, if not all, of 2019. We are striving to become more financially literate and pay off all our debt. I don’t think it’s realistic to be completely debt free by the end of 2019, but I do think it’s possible to be debt free by 2020. So our goal for this category is to pay off at least 50% of our debt through budgeting and making extra debt payments. I’ll be talking more about budgeting in the coming months, but I’ve really been working on nailing down our budget and sticking to. So far it’s been life changing!

PHYSICAL

This one is the hardest one for me to stay motivated in. I know I want to lose weight and be healthier, but I find it very difficult to find and keep my motivation up to actually achieve it. I would like to work out, but I’m struggling to find a way to do it with a clingy toddler and no babysitter. I haven’t set any goals for this because I’m still trying to figure out what is even doable.

SPIRITUAL

My main goal for 2019 is to find a church and consistently attend a service each week. So far I’ve googled several churches I’d like to try but haven’t actually gone yet because Bret works on weekends and I feel weird about going by myself for the first time. So once Bret has a Saturday night or Sunday morning off, we’ll be able to start working towards this goal.

SOCIAL

This is kinda combined with spiritual because I know we’ll meet people at church. We haven’t really made any friends in Fresno yet, so our main goal in 2019 for this category is to just make friends.

INTELLECTUAL

We spend a lot of time on our phones and watching TV. I’d like to limit this and start reading more. I have a lot of books I haven’t read that I would like to, including some relationship, finance, and fiction books. So far I’ve made the goal to read one book a month. For January, I started a book…but haven’t finished it yet.

FAMILY

I think the thing I want to work on most with our immediate family of three and our extended family (parents, siblings, niece, and grandparents) is just being present; hanging out with them and spending quality time together. Since moving away I know our time is a little more precious when we visit. I think my family really noticed a difference when we didn’t come down for Christmas. My brother (who is the least sentimental person I know) told me he really missed me there and there was just a different vibe about Christmas this year. If you know my brother, this is like the most heart-warming thing he could say and it actually made me tear up. I spent so much time with my family since moving home from Ohio that I think we all took it for granted. Now that I’ve moved away and my mom is moving to AZ this summer, I think everyone is starting to realize that we need to think more about what we’re doing together when we’re together. Are we talking about trivial things that lead to someone getting annoyed or upset? Or are we focusing on improving our relationships, taking in interest in what others are saying, putting aside our grievances, and just learning to love the others around you? I’m trying to focus more on the latter, especially right now as we navigate unfamiliar emotional territories from issues family members are having. I’d rather be here and present for my family during their time of need than to judge from afar.

These are just a glimpse, a highlight reel if you will, of the goals I have for 2019. I really want to make a vision board for this year and I have some more specific goals that will be incorporated in that. (Actually that just gave me a thought of doing vision boards together as a family when we visit our hometown this month. Fam, if you like this idea, let me know!)

Feel free to comment below what some of your goals are for 2019!

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  • Sandy Riedberger Ashcraft February 1, 2019 at 9:52 pm Reply

    Great blog and I like the vision board idea! I probably need a new one! <3

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